Honor Your Father and Your Mother

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My wife went to the hair-dresser and overheard a conversation that enrages me. Several elderly ladies were sharing how their grown children treated them. One spoke haltingly as she sobbed. She lived with her son and daughter-in-law, who did not treat her well and wanted her to move out. She went to Hong Kong for a month to visit relatives, but upon her return to Toronto found something strange.

She entered her condo apartment and immediately noticed that everything changed. The furniture was different, the drapes were different, even the color of the wall was different. Then a stranger came out of the bedroom and asked who she was and what was she doing here. Surprised, she said “This is my home. I live here! Who are you?” The man said, “No, there must be a mistake! This is my home. I bought this apartment from your son last month. Didn’t he tell you?” The senior lady was stunned and speechless. Her son had not told her anything. He had deserted her and moved, and she didn’t know where to find him.

Another case involved a son and his wife taking his mother to vacation, and disappearing after a few days without a trace. They had abandoned her in a foreign city! What children would do a thing like that? We Chinese pride ourselves as being cultured, doing everything with propriety, and value filial piety above all other virtues (百行孝为先). How then did we degenerate into doing something which even the crude would frown upon?

Perhaps this is a natural consequence when men reject God:
Rom 1:28-31 And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper, being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful;

But this happens also to religious people:
Mt 15:4-6 For God said, ‘HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER,’ and, ‘HE WHO SPEAKS EVIL OF FATHER OR MOTHER IS TO BE PUT TO DEATH.’ But you say, ‘Whoever says to his father or mother, “Whatever I have that would help you has been given to God,” he is not to honor his father or his mother.’ And by this you invalidated the word of God for the sake of your tradition. (Also Mk 7:10-13)

Or it could be a sign that we’re entering the end times:
2 Tim 3:1-4 “in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God,”

Whatever the reason, the Bible’s assessment is clear:
1 Tim 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

Honor your father and your mother. This is the repeated commandment in Scripture (Ex 20:12; Deut 5:16; Mt 15:4, 19:19; Mk 7:10, 10:19; Lk 18:20; Eph 6:2). Beware of religion, because it sets aside the commandment of God. Follow Jesus, not your tradition.